I do not understand the minds of some people. If you are unhappy with the person you are married to, sleeping, with, or connected to why not just leave them? If the relationship is not what you want or is not giving you what you think you need, get out of it. Do not lie to the other person and to someone else you choose to involve without giving them the entire story.
I do not care if you do not want to hurt the other person, or they are not able to handle you leaving or they are sick or whatever your pathetic excuse is..you hiding things is only doing them a terrible disservice.
***THIS IS WHERE THE LANGUAGE GETS NASTY FOLKS, IF YOU DON'T WANT TO READ IT LEAVE NOW****
But, if you insist on being an arrogant, stupid, moronic, asshole, and a complete fuckhead the least you can do is not drag other people into your horrible life. Sit home and jack off all you want, hire a hooker who does not give a shit who you are or what you do, but do not take up the time of someone who deserves better than your childish games. They are looking for someone who can love them and provide them with a trusting relationship.
Now, to be fair I have to speak to those who find out the one they are with is a lowlife, pigpen, disgusting motherfucker and stay because “they really love me, I know they do.” Newsflash>>
THEY WILL PROBABLY NEVER CHANGE!!!!!
And if you let yourself believe that then you are just as bad as they are. Very seldom do tigers change their stripes. You are in for a world of heartache and tears, do not come crying when it happens again and again and again and again (you finally getting the idea here?). It will happen as long as you allow it to go on. If you do not care enough about yourself (please, for goddess sake DO NOT have kids if you are this stupid) to get out then why should you think others will care?